Letting Go

11 Apr
by Jenny, posted in Consumerism/Minimalism, Money Honey   |  17 Comments

When we find ourselves in the midst of a crisis, it can be difficult to let go of our current circumstances and jump into the unknown. Sometimes clinging to the familiar — no matter how painful — is more comfortable than exploring the unfamiliar.

Today I want to invite you to become uncomfortable.

If you’re already unhappy with the current circumstances in which you find yourself, what’s the worst that could happen if you take a step in a more harmonious direction? What are you most afraid of?

For me, it’s the fear of time that holds me back. Less of it, that is. And the fear of not being available for my children. Not to mention the fear of failing. Oh, and the nagging fear of not being able to financially support myself and my family.

Today I would like to invite you to demonstrate courage. I’ll join you. We can be scared, but we’ll do it anyway.

So…

  • Apply for the job.
  • Talk to the guy or girl you’ve been too afraid to approach.
  • Take the trip.
  • Have — or adopt — the child.
  • Move to another city, state or country.
  • Switch career fields.
  • Get rid of the things and relationships that no longer serve you.

Clear out what isn’t working in your life so that you can make room for things that do.

Sometimes we get so busy tending to all of the things in our world that are broken, that we fail to see the opportunities that would present themselves if we would just prune the dead, tangled branches of our lives. Removing the excess is the only way we will ever allow new, healthy possibilities to grow.

Let’s get out our pruning shears and start cutting!

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17 Responses to Letting Go

  1. Great idea, Jenny!
    Simplifying our lives is not about getting rid of everything, it’s about removing what doesn’t help us grow or makes us happy in order to have a lot more of the things that we love.
    Sometimes we need to take a risk in order to do that. In my personal experience, I’ve found that removing the relationships that are harmful for my life immediately brings one filled with joy.
    Thank you!

    • Yes Alenjandro, ending harmful personal relationships can immediately improve the quality of our lives. Unfortunately, ending toxic relationships is often one of the scariest things we have to do! So, sometimes we just need to take a deep breath, and do it anyway.

      Thanks for stopping in to share your insights. :)

  2. Love Your post and the courageous simplicity it exhibits. You are wise and insightful and I, for one am grateful to call you a friend.
    Love

    -Bern

  3. I think sometimes the obstacle is a fear of change and fear of the unknown. What if we take that big chance and it ends up not working out but we can no loger go back to what was either? Granted, not necessarily a rational view, but I bet most people have experienced exactly that at some time or another. Trading the devil we know for the devil we don’t.

    • What a great perspective Mike. I think once we become irreversibly miserable in a certain area of our lives, we’re more likely to make a change — regardless of the unknown. Once we get to the point where anything looks better than the current situation, walking in different direction becomes a little less daunting. :)

  4. I get so conflicted on this one. I took a step forward (got a job) only to find that by doing so, it took us two steps back (basically the income would kick our boys off of state health ins., but I won’t be guaranteed enough hours to cover paying for their own health ins.). I think fear keeps us from doing a lot of things, and evolutionarily, it makes sense as most fears could lead to our demise/death. It’s hard to draw the line between being rational (i.e. not moving to a new place before you have a job there) and flying by the seat of your pants (I want to move, so I quit and go, but can’t find a job once there). Being the analytical person I am, I say go demolish those fears, but do so in a rational, smart way. (How Type A can I be?! lol). Thanks for a thought-provoking post!

    • Great points Megyn! It usually makes much more sense to take a step in the direction you want to go, without dropping everything keeping you afloat. Sometimes even taking a step in a new direction is difficult.

      I hope you figure out what will work best for your family with the job situation. As we chatted about on Twitter, it’s hard for us moms to make work decisions since our kiddos are usually under our care.

  5. Being uncomfortable means growth….if you can push through it, you’ll learn something! :)

  6. Oddly enough I was just out working in the garden (shearing away to excess) to get ready to put our house on the market. We’re moving from Vancouver to Whistler this summer and I’m excited, but scared. We have friends and family there but the unknown is still frightening. Sure glad I don’t have those 10,000 things to pack up. hee hee! Thanks for the post!

    • That’s great that you decided to take the leap and move to Whistler Christine! I’m guessing you found a school for your son there? I’ll have to go get caught up. :)

      And yes, 10,000 less things to pack will make for a much simpler moving experience!

  7. I had very similar fears to yourself when I was younger, worrying about less time for my family, the impact of being out of a job, all of the negative things. But once my children were financially independent I made the leap and now work for myself.

    It is a big step and I don’t knoe if I could have done it when my children were dependant on me, but now I have I don’t look back.

    • I’m glad to know I’m not the only one with fears surrounding providing for young children Keith. It’s amazing how having little blessings to care for can change your willingness to assume risk.

      I owned my own business before I had my first son, but decided to reenter the workforce once he was about a year old.

      Of course, there really is no safe choice. Each has its own set of risks and rewards. ;)

  8. Jean Scott

    Really great post. This will make some people try and get out of their comfort zones. Sometimes we find comfort in the familiar zone and end up missing out on what we could have gained from exploring the unfamiliar.

  9. Make me uncomfortable…..PLEASE the worse the better! somebody needs to get off their but and being all cozy will not cut it! Changes are inevitable, but motivation is the key.
    Great post

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